yes you were right about that, updating the headers worked this time with the brand new kali install, thx.
now I just need the adapter to work, it will see it in lsusb, I must have missed something somewhere, I will keep trying!
EDIT - Kept trying, reinstalled persistence again lol, but did not install the kali drivers first from the new blog how to this time...instead installed yours right off the bat and voila! Thanks!